Women Who Try Too Hard: Breaking the Pleaser Habits

By Kevin Leman

Book Overview

Are you trying to make things better for others at your own expense? Learn how to say no and break the habit of pleasing everybody but yourself. This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0800756525
• ISBN13: 9780800756529
• Release Date: May 1998
• Publisher: Fleming H. Revell Company
• Length: 320 Pages
• Weight: 0.86 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.8" x 5.6" x 8.6"
• Age Range: 18 years and up
• Grade Range: Postsecondary and higher

Customer Reviews

A good book

My wife says it is a good book. I like the author and watch him on his tv show, so I figured I'd order it for her and then read it afterwards. So far she says its great.

A Professional Counselor's Opinion

This book was originally titled THE PLEASERS. As a licensed mental health counselor, I have recommended this book to many of my clients. Dr. Leman helps any woman break free from the demeaning and self-debilitating habit of trying to please everyone but herself. Women have long been taught by society that they take a back-seat to everyone else and been discouraged from being their own person. This book was an instrument of healing in my own life many years ago and it still stands up as a leader among books on this subject. By-the-way, the principles can work for men caught in the "pleaser" trap, too. I hope it never goes out of print! I am using a pen name only due to personal reasons related to safety.

Women Who Try Too Hard

A life-changing book - I would recommend it for anyone who feels they try too hard to please and do not receive the positive feedback they feel they deserve. I bought it for my daughter and she loaned it to a friend and they both agreed with my assessment. I felt like Kevin Leman was writing about me.

Good for what it's about

I think the title is a bit misleading. We, as women, have so many different hats we wear and roles we play (well, so do men for that matter). But, as busy as I am as a female and everyone demanding a piece of me and not having much time left for myself, I thought that's what the book was about. It's more about women in abusive relationships, which I'm not. So, I guess it's good for what it's worth, but not what I had in mind.

Discovering the Habits that I needed to break...

Dr. Leman, in his typical witty way, gets right to the heart of the problem- and talks right to me! I was confronted in my patterns of being a Pleaser, which only allowed me to feel comfortable with controllers. I am at a point in my life where I want to get off the merry-go-round of bad relationships. Dr. Leman discusses very practical ways to change my habits, which will in turn help me choose healthier relationships. I have already recommended this book to many of my girlfriends who are ready for change in their relationships- friendships, marriages, dating relationships, family relationships, etc. (Interesting how it all starts with changes in our own perceptions, etc.)