This Wasn't Supposed to Happen to Me: 10 Make-Or-Break Choices When Life Steals Your Dreams and Rocks Your World

By Bev Smallwood

Book Overview

Learn the 10 critical choices necessary for wholeness and recovery after life's tragedies and disappointments. Blending scientifically-validated psychological truths with spiritual principles, Dr. Beverly Smallwood enables readers to overcome the unexpected and unthinkable. Giving readers a roadmap of 10 major choices, she offers hope that no matter what has happened, going forward, we all have the power to choose. Through the power of choice readers will be able to move from: Denial to Reality Victimhood to Responsibility Why to How Doubt to Faith Bitterness to Forgiveness Guilt to Self-Forgiveness Depression to Grief Avoidance to Courage Isolation to Connection Powerlessness to Purpose

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0785297316
• ISBN13: 9780785297314
• Release Date: January 2009
• Publisher: Thomas Nelson Publishers
• Length: 336 Pages
• Weight: 1.15 lbs.
• Dimensions: 1.0" x 6.1" x 9.0"

Customer Reviews

"This Wasn't Supposed to Happen To Me" by Bev Smallwood, Ph.D.

"This Wasn't Supposed To Happen To Me" remains on my nightstand with my Bible although I have read Dr. Smallwood's book in its entirety. It has become my other constant "reference book". My only sibling, my sister, died a year ago from a ruptured brain aneurysm. I thought "this cannot be happening". She was too young. She was healthy. I had just talked to her. My entire "childhood family" had died. One by one I had buried them. I bought the book and it has helped me so much to go through a healthy grieving process for my sister and also, 42 years after their death, my parents--something I was still not willing to face. It is not just a book to help with grieving the death of a loved one. If you have suffered adversity be it through injury, a job loss, divorce, or any other life-changing adversity that was not in your "plan for life", this book will help you. I bought one for a friend. If you are a fortunate one who has suffered no life-changing adversity, I would recommend your buying this book for a friend. It will be a wonderful gift to him or her.

This Wasn't Supposed to Happen to Me

This is an excellent book for anyone whose life has been changed by events out of their control.

Guidance, hope and healing

When a friend is in a dark place, having suffered a heartache, setback or tragedy, I struggle to figure out what to say and how to help. I listen, try to be encouraging, and wish I could give them more. Now I can, thanks to Dr. Bev Smallwood. She has written a truly life-changing book. In addition to offering my prayers and my presence, I can give friends and family members an honest, encouraging and loving guide on how to find their way through times of grief, disappointment and despair. "This Wasn't Supposed to Happen..." avoids being "preachy" by sharing the stories of real people who faced the worst that life can bring. The stories are amazing. The entire book is well and warmly written. As a reader, you'll feel the author take your hand as she speaks gently, yet firmly, guiding you to face, and then make, each necessary choice to move into a new state of grace, healing and hope.

personal transformation

This Wasn't Supposed to Happen to Me: 10 Make-or-Break Choices When Life Steals Your Dreams and Rocks Your World This book has the same life changing affect to me as The Road Less Traveled. Dr. Smallwood's compassion for helping people really shows in her writing. This book gives practical and comprehensive steps in recovering from experiences of trauma that are based on research, personal, and professional experiences. She incorporates faith in the recovery process and exposes many false teachings that hinder the recovery process. As she said "It's not what happens to you, it's what happens in you that counts".

This Wasn't Supposed To Happen To Me

As a survivor of trauma, I found Dr. Bev's book to be a road map for how to get through life with a plan to get past being a "victim" and become a "survivor." Her book offers a true plan for recovery. There were times while reading when I thought, "my gosh she knows exactly what happen to me." Her book is easy to read, easy to understand, and offers a plan which is easy to follow. I'm impressed with Dr. Bev's ability to offer so much useful -- real life -- information in her book.