So-called negative thoughts can have the positive effect of protecting someone from emotional vulnerability. People adopt behaviors to shield themselves and to hide underlying fears. Tony Humphreys... This description may be from another edition of this product.
Logical advise that makes you feel better about yourself!
Published by Thriftbooks.com User , 16 years ago
I agree with the previous reviewer. Without repeating everything the previous person said, I would highly recommend this book. I have read many self-help books, but found this one life changing. I am sending it to my brother who we have always labeled "negative", but now I see he has just been protecting himself, and his behavior has been justified, and does in fact change as his trust level rises. This book makes perfect sense and I find I will use the list of recommendations in the book for creating a healthy relationship as I raise my son. I have been inspired to look for more writings by this author who is truly a genius in the field of psychology.
Challenges the "positive thinking" concepts!
Published by Thriftbooks.com User , 22 years ago
Tony Humphreys has written a wonderful book that helps eliminate the actual emotional problems people face. It is not just a "positive thinking" bandaid to cover the emotional hurt like so many self-help books. He really gets to the root of personal problems unlike so many other authors. The author shows why he doesn't believe in labeling peoples thinking as negative or positive. That cognitive psycholigist approach actually blames the person for their thoughts, causing more judgement and guilt on themselves! I did that exact thing after realizing I could never just flip all my negative thoughts into positive ones. There is too many hidden emotional problems that can't be cured by positive affirmations. Tony shows that our thoughts are always good and creative...always "protecting" us from hurt or harm. It's totally normal for ones mind to place protective behaviours after an emotional hurt occurs. Also, these so called "negative" feelings reveal to us the need for emotional healing. It would be dangerous to just put up a positive front, and ignore all of these messages your mind is telling you. It's time to really begin the healing. Begin healing TODAY!! Get this book! It will change your life.
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