The Amputee's Guide to Sex

By Jillian Weise

Book Overview

A paradigm-shifting collection about disability and desire, recontextualized with an introduction by one of our most provocative contemporary poets.

When Jillian Weise wrote The Amputee's Guide to Sex, it was with the intention of changing the conversation around disability; essentially, she was tired of seeing "cripples" portrayed as asexual characters. The collection that resulted is a powerful lesson in desire, the body, pain, and possession.

These poems interrogate medical language and history, imagine Mona Lisa in a wheelchair, rewrite Elizabeth Bishop's poem "In the Waiting Room," address a lover's arsonist ex-girlfriend, and show the prosthesis as the object of male curiosity and lust. Publishers Weekly, in a starred review, called the book a "charged and daring debut" and described Jillian Weise as an "agile and powerful poet . . . speaking boldly and compassionately about a little-discussed subject that becomes universal in her careful hands."

In the years since its first publication, our culture continues to grapple with questions limned in this collection. In a new introduction, Weise revisits and recontextualizes her work, revealing its urgency to our present moment. What are the challenges of speaking "for" a community? How to resist the institutionalization of ableist paradigms? How are atypical bodies silenced? Where do our corporeal selves intersect with our technologies?

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1593760205
• ISBN13: 9781593760205
• Release Date: September 2017
• Publisher: Soft Skull
• Length: 112 Pages
• Weight: 0.35 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.6" x 5.4" x 8.2"

Customer Reviews

I promise, I will not break

Weise, Jillian. The Amputee's Guide to Sex. Brooklyn: Soft Skull Press, 2007. The idea of being handicap is nonexistent in Jillian Weise's first book, The Amputee's Guide to Sex (2007). Weise's verse intoxicates the reader, using tightly wound images drawn from her own personal experience (an above-the-knee amputation), historical references of amputees, and the projected image of beauty in which society often perversely alters. Although bombarded by society's image of beauty, Weise chooses to confront conventional associations of beauty, stating, "I am no Venus, stitched stone // in a museum for eyes to scan / the length of, uneven, unwhole" (24). Her delicate experimentation with form uniquely mirrors her search for identity and empowerment. During the read, the reader might feel as if they are glueing back together pieces of a porcelain doll, following the stitches and fissures of a wounded soul. However, there is no need to fear handling this collection as if at anytime Weise's own psyche might shatter. Instead the reader can feel Weise taking control, steering her train off "the railroad tracks / along her back"(9) and pushing into new territory by addressing the taboos of sex and amputees. Weise is sick of under-breath and closed-door conversations, she wants the world to see a woman, just as any woman, grasping her sexual appetite and taking charge. Do not be deceived, the collection is not a listing of explicit sexual innuendoes, but rather sex is portrayed as a platform for dialogues and conversations, challenging her own fears and anxieties of identity and body image. She write, "When I asked you to turn off the lights, / you said, Will you show me your leg first?" (19). Weise not only chooses to show us her leg, but her whole body with each turn of the page. As if walking through a museum of classical sculptures, the reader stops and stares, not only at the product of beauty with delicate curves and enchanting hair, but gushes over the process in which a master's hand carved these words onto paper. By the end of the collection, Weise challenges the reader to redefine their own concepts of beauty and the world surrounding it. It is safe to say that through The Amputee's Guide to Sex, Jillian Weise stands firmly on the grounds of confessional poetry, waving a flag, screaming, love me, touch me, I promise, I will not break!

Delicate & Powerful at the Same Time

The first poem in this book, "The Amputee's Guide to Sex," tackles the heart of the matter with some practical humor: "To create an uninhibited environment for your partner, track their hands like game pieces on a board. For leg amputees, keep arms on upper body. For arm amputees, keep arms on lower body." (Weise 3) Weise moves delicately and skillfully into deeper, darker moments, such as when she is fifteen and a boy finds out her secret: I have an artificial leg. He doesn't know that and when his hand rubs against me and I'm not real, he stops and says, "What the hell?" like I've offended him. (Weise 66) In the same poem, titled "I Want You to Know This," Weise ends with the poignant words: I want you to know this, because maybe you wondered about people with fake legs; maybe you wanted to hold their hand but you didn't because you thought you might trip. (Weise 67) Weise points out that perhaps people are afraid of the unfamiliar, and it's not the person with the fake leg who is awkward, it's other people treating them differently, afraid of tripping themselves, that ultimately leads to awkwardness. In "The Amputee's Guide to Sex," readers will find beautiful and powerful prose, peppered with poignant moments and Weise's unique, wry sense of humor. The fishnet stockings on the cover tell it all: evocative & provocative. Definitely worth adding to your poetry book collection!

Jillian Weise: First She Captures our Curiosity, Then She Captures our Heart

Jillian Weise is a remarkably gifted poet. Jillian Weise incidentally happens to wear an artificial leg. As her first published collection of poems she elects to utilize both aspects and the result is a series of well-crafted, intensely sensitive poems ostensibly about how people react to amputees at the level of our most vulnerable reaction: sexual attraction. Weise is neither belligerent nor pitiful in her poems that deal with sexual encounters. She has the courage to embrace her physical status and use it as a barometer for examining how the public in general (and male lovers, in particular) responds to people with 'deformities', such as an artificial limb. Her sense of perspective allows her to see the comedy in the moment of 'discovery' of her 'differentness', relating how men react when during initial passion to the feel of plastic instead of flesh. But Wiese wisely presents the feelings as the one missing a limb: her mental state ranges from pain to anger to daring to pride and at each step her poems reach in a few well-chosen words a level of communication that is astonishingly fine. Some of the poems in this fascinating collection address the communication barriers between physician and patient in dealing with frank discussions about quality of life status: they are illuminating. She also provides little guides to couples in their preparation for intimate activity, couples where one who has a missing limb and the other is 'whole'. Most people will pick up this little book (hopefully!) because of the titillating title, AN AMPUTEE'S GUIDE TO SEX is a title that conjures all manner of responses - but mostly curiosity. And for a first volume of published poems the title may heighten the sales of the book. But once any reader opens and reads these poems, that reader will discover a powerful new poet whose manner of writing and whose communication skills are as pungent as anyone writing poetry today. Jillian Weise finds her way into our psyche and into our heart and she is a very welcome newcomer in the field of poetry! Grady Harp, June 07