Thanks for the Memories: Love, Sex, and World War II

By Jane Mersky Leder

Book Overview

Thanks for the Memories destroys the historical myth that young men and women went about the business of war and stayed on the straight and narrow path. Rather, World War II provided new opportunities for sexual experimentation, for hasty marriages, for flourishing prostitution--and for love connections that have stood the test of time. Young men in the military, far away from family and home, did things they might never have done. Young women, many of whom went to work for the first time, experienced a freedom and independence most women had never known. Because of the war, courtships were cut short, couples married more quickly than normal, and husbands and wives were often separated for several years. Despite attempts to get back to normal after the war and the apparent togetherness of the 1950s, World War II had set change in motion, heralding the second wave of the women's liberation movement.

The collective consciousness of World War II revolved around the virtues of bravery, sacrifice, and commitment. Members of The Greatest Generation toed political and social lines in hopes of winning the war. They fell into lockstep, asking very few questions, and breaking few social and sexual mores. Or did they?
In fact, World War II was--like all wars--a time of sexual experimentation and a general loosening of morals. It was a time of conflicting emotions and conflicting messages, a time of great sacrifice, and a time of discovery, when some groups, especially woman, experienced a relaxing of bonds that had kept them in check. Thanks For The Memories: Love, Sex, and World War II the true story of how the World War II generation responded to the passions of war, and how those passions changed their lives-and the relationships between the sexes-forever. But this book is more than that. As Jane Mersky Leder writes, Thanks for the Memories opens the hearts and memories of a generation that is dying, by one estimate, at the rate of more than 1,000 a day. It exposes the sexual and romantic escapades of The Greatest Generation and underscores how those four war years revolutionized relationships (including those between gays), and how it helped set the stage for the second wave of the women's liberation movement. Many who never thought their stories mattered, Leder writes, now feel the pull of limited time, and the importance of leaving an accurate account for their children and grandchildren of what it was like to be a young man or young woman during World War II. This is their collective story.

• Format: Hardcover
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0275988791
• ISBN13: 9780275988791
• Release Date: September 2006
• Publisher: Praeger
• Length: 240 Pages
• Weight: 1.20 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.9" x 6.5" x 9.4"

Customer Reviews

Thanks for the Memories -- Fascinating Insights

I enjoyed this book and would recommend it. Ms. Leder does a nice job blending individualized accounts and memories with a broader overview of many of the social issues which arose before, during, and after World War II. Her chronicle includes tales of military wives, some very young, who traveled the country and lived in amazingly bad conditions to be with their husbands in uniform prior to their shipping out for overseas duties. It also includes tales of rampant infidelities -- I was surprised to learn, for example, that a 1945 US Army survey revealed that 80% of GIs away from home for two years or more admitted to regular sexual intercourse, with nearly a third of these having wives at home. Ms. Leder also links (albeit indirectly, as she concedes) the changing moral climate brought on by World War II to the Women's Liberation Movement, starting in the 1960s. I am glad I bought the book.

An enlightening read

I enjoyed reading this book because it gives a more balanced picture of what people were really doing during the war. That is exactly what people always do given the circumstances in which they find themselves. They had sex, they cheated, they longed for each other. Some stayed faithful, some got divorced. So, they maybe weren't the greatest generation, they just did what people do. Interesting stories about real people's lives. This needed to be written and was written well.

Reviewed by Sabrina Williams

The premise of Jane Mersky Leder's Thanks for the Memories: Love, Sex, and World War II is to illustrate a shift in the way World War II society viewed sexuality. The views that emerged at this time have continued to shape us to this day. Leder brings forth some information that challenges the romanticized ideal that male soldiers stoicly served their country while wives and girlfriends waited patiently at home for their loves to return. The parents of the "baby boomer" generation were hardly the reserved innocents most of us believe them to be. Soldiers and young adults from World War II relate anecdotes of turmoil and confusion, sparsely dotted with the stereotypical love affairs found so commonly in World War II stories. From sexual harrassment, sexual and racial discrimination, high percentages of enlisted homosexuals, legal prostitution, veneral diseases, and promiscuous "khaki whackies" intent on serving the country in their own ways, readers begin to see the war years as a time of self-discovery and a challenge to the conservative morals so readily adopted by previous generations. In actuality, World War II was the beginning of a sexual revolution that is typically believed to have begun in the Vietnam War Era. Leder does an excellent job of presenting a liberal shift in sexuality that most of us assumed occurred much later in the twentieth century. Those expecting a torrid novel of sexual deviants should look elsewhere--this book is strictly academic nonfiction. However, Leder offers a refreshing viewpoint of a sentimental era that humanizes a generation once thought of as chaste and conservative.

Highly recommend

Reviewed by Debra Gaynor for Reader Views (12/06) World War II changed things, "the lives of American men and women would never be the same. The United States was at war, a war that would forever change the landscape of American society and balance of power between the sexes." Long has it been romanticized, creating visions of last-minute marriages before a soldier going to war, people willingly sacrificing for the war effort and women faithfully keeping the home fires burning while waiting for their man to return. But these are just visions. Ms. Leder allows readers to look at World War II from a different angle. No one had ever expected the country to fall into such a deep depression. In 1933, "the Great Depression, which spanned over a decade from 1930 to 1941, with aftershocks up until American's entry into World War II at the end of 1941, ruined lives, derailed dreams, and changed the course of personal relationships." Birth control wasn't the standard during this era. "The Comstock Act prevented disseminating birth control information through the mail or across state lines." "There were 55 birth control clinics in 23 cities in 12 states." Margaret Sanger challenged the Act and the Supreme Court repealed it. Sex education was non-existent; sex was a topic that wasn't discussed. "When it came to sex, the Motion Picture Production code, commonly known as the Hays Code, was crystal clear. The sanctity of the institution of marriage and the home shall be upheld." Jane Mersky Leder is an excellent writer and has written a fascinating book that discusses facts and myths concerning a period in American history that changed society and the relationships between men and women. She has done an excellent job documenting the information. The cover is wonderfully done, reminding us of the romantic myth we've grown up believing in. My husband is very interested in this period of time and I intend to share this book with him. I highly recommend "Thanks for the Memories: Love, Sex, and World War II" to those interested in history.