Sexual Intelligence: The Groundbreaking Study That Shows You How to Boost Your "Sex IQ" and Gain Greater Sexual Satisfaction

By Michael A. Milburn, Sheree D. Conrad, Michael Milburn

Book Overview

Get What You Want in Bed Most couples agree that sex is an important part of a relationship, yet only a small percent claim to have a truly satisfying sex life. But no one has to live that way. This provocative and informative book will provide you with everything you need to know to boost your "sex IQ" and gain greater satisfaction-starting with the invaluable Sexual Intelligence Test. Developed by Dr. Sheree Conrad and Dr. Michael Milburn as part of their groundbreaking scientific study, the test has proven to be an accurate predictor of how satisfied people are when they're between the sheets-and you can reap the benefits of this extraordinary survey. After you measure your own sexual intelligence, you can identify your weakest areas and use the tools provided by Conrad and Milburn to get exactly what you want in bed. With the help of this practical guide, you will learn: * All the reasons people have sex * What constitutes a "normal" sex life * How to escape the confines of gender stereotypes * The mysteries of sexual attraction * How to use sexual intelligence to stay faithful Filled with uplifting stories from the men and women whose sex lives were transformed by Milburn and Conrad's thought-provoking study, as well as useful advice on how to shed your inhibitions and break free of cultural taboos, Sexual Intelligence will forever change the way you think about and practice sex.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0609807218
• ISBN13: 9780609807217
• Release Date: May 2002
• Publisher: Three Rivers Press (CA)
• Length: 352 Pages
• Weight: 0.60 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.8" x 5.2" x 8.1"

Customer Reviews

A key to a rich, fulfillig sex life

The authors devise the concept of "Sexual Intelligence" which is a measurable extent "between a rich, fulfilling, conflict-free sex life and a disappointing or even destructive one". The three components of Sexual Intelligence are (1) sexual knowledge, (2) awareness of the secret sexual self and (3) the ability to connect with others. The book is full of stories that show how harmful for the Sexual Intelligence are media myths, religious dogmas, disinclination to apply for physician's aid, gender stereotypes, legacy of sexual violence, lack of sexual education at, sexless behavior at work, and other evils. In addition to the obviousness that sex is joyful and exciting experience that enriches one's life, the authors evidence benefits of sex for physical and mental health in numerous references to scientific researches (the endnotes section has 160 references). The authors, however, do not mention that sexual aversion seriously affects one's social life by diminishing charm. Thus I would recommend "Sexual Desire Disorders" by Helen Kaplan in addition to this book.

You said sexual intelligence?

Finally, a book that studies sexuality seriously. Several topics are covered such as myths on sex, sex education and consequences related to sex... Like many reviewers have underlined it, everything is in our mind. The way we are related to sex is conditionned by our own view on sex which has been influenced by our parents, friends, media, religion and so on. Sexual education play a great part in our life. Problem is we don't know how to deal with it when it comes to educate our own children. Most won't. That is an important issue. Sexual intelligence is your capability to understand your sexual needs, desires and to adapt accordingly, with the consequences in mind. How to deal with infidelity, sexual dysfunctions, fantaisies? We have first to free ourselves from painful past sexual experiences then to act smartly when matters comes to sex : education, be communicative, accept your sexual desires, let them come and go and don't be a slave anymore of your desires. Sometimes fantaisies are just fantaisies. This book covers many interesting subjects and could be a good sex education book if summarized.

Fascinating!

This book has a lot that distinguishes it from the many books on sex that are available. First, it is a serious scholarly study, not just someone giving their opinions about sex. It has a really nice balance; it's well researched, but does not read like a dry, scientific textbook. On the contrary, the authors combine highly readable stories from their research interviews that are both funny and moving, with up to date research findings from their own project and current research on sex. Theoretically, it also strikes a nice balance, suggesting the problems with sexual repression on one hand and the "anything goes" sexual freedom approach on the other. Their sexual intelligence test is fun to take and revealing. I really enjoyed reading this book. It's helped me to think about sex in a new way.

Sexual Intelligence - Wise and Engaging

It's all in your head! That's right - sexual satisfaction is not about doing the right things in bed, it's about thinking the right things. This book offers a new perspective on sexuality. Instead of saying that we need to do it more - or less, they are saying that we need to do it smarter. They have a test that you can take to see how you score, and more importantly, you can fix the areas where you need improvement. So, Conrad and Milburn tell you not only what might be off in your Sex IQ, they tell you how to improve it!....