Partners in Pleasure: Sharing Success, Creating Joy, Fulfilling Dreams - Together

By Paul Pearsall

Book Overview

Learning to look at life with four eyes and two hearts joined into one soul
Continuing his transmission of 2,000-year-old Polynesian wisdom that began with The Pleasure Prescription, Paul Pearsall introduces in this new book what be calls "naupaka love" or aloha kakou--love shared, profound companionship, surrendering to a relationship in all its dimensions and embracing it as a lifelong mission of discovery and mutual pleasure.Our society tells us that individual success and self-fulfillment are the keys to happiness. This book asks, If that is true, why do so many of us--even those who are in a relationship--feel unhappy and alone? And it answers that there is no joy if there is no one to share it with. As a poet said long ago, "No man is an island .... "A uniquely warm combination of oral wisdom and current research, Partners in Pleasure is nothing less than a re-visioning of marriage. It offers eight lessons in mahele (sharing)--eight pleasure prescriptions for partners, from dreaming die same dream to becoming one body. Woven throughout are partnering tests; relationship lessons from Hawai i's foremost kupuna (elders) and kahuna (healers or priests); and insights from Dr. Pearsall's own work and seminars.Partners in Pleasure shows couples how they can come together to face the challenges of life--conflict, sexual compatibility, child-rearing, career setbacks and getting old--and grow ever stronger together, united in heart.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0897933230
• ISBN13: 9780897933230
• Release Date: April 2001
• Publisher: Hunter House Publishers
• Length: 288 Pages
• Weight: 0.95 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.6" x 6.0" x 8.9"

Customer Reviews

LOVE NEEDS NO EXPLANATION...IT JUST IS!

As a counsellor who has studied behavioural psychology, I can attest to the fact it is important for an individual to hold onto their own identity and not live in the shadow of someone's expectations. There is also truth in the fact one must love themselves before they can give or receive love to the fullest. However, it is also equally fulfilling to have someone to share your life with. That is not to say everyone needs a partner to be fulfilled, and in cases where the relationship is not a happy one, life may be more fulfilling without that partnership. The importance is not in finding a partner, but in finding the right partner, a soul-mate who has no desire to control, own or manipulate your life....but to share it.Those who do have partners and happy, fulfilling relationships will agree that sharing your life with someone is one of life's greatest pleasures and richest treasures. That has been the way of mankind, since the day's of Adam and Eve, and the universal way of telling us we do not have to walk through this life alone unless we choose to do so. This book traces the path of ancient culture and wisdom - the joys and rewards of partners and sharing. We truly do reap what we sow, and the more love we give and share with others, the more we are destined to receive. In addition to this book, I also recommend reading "Surrendering to Marriage" by Iris Krasnow (which is really not about surrendering but sharing) and "The Mastery of Love" by Miguel Ruiz - both are excellent books on love, sharing and fulfilling one's dreams.

As Seen on TV

Dr. Pearsall was a guest on Montel Williams (4/20/2001). What he had to say about marriage made a lot of sense. We definately do suffer from a me, me, me type society. When married, a couple needs to view themselves as we/us instead of I/me. This is a definate must get book for us (I'm one half of a married couple).

Forget Self

What a joy it was to find and read this book. I'm tired of reading books that are all about me, me, me. I have found that people who are so concerned about their needs, wants and desires are some of the most unhappy people I know. As this book points out, it is those who unselfishly give and share with others are usually full of love and contentment. I found a great book earlier this year that helped me to be more loving, The Romantic's Guide by Michael Webb. I'd highly recommend both books if you really want to improve the love in your life.