Men's Work: How to Stop the Violence That Tears Our Lives Apart

By Paul Kivel

Book Overview

In his ground-breaking work, author Paul Kivel helps men confront the political, social, and personal forces that generate and reward misogyny, hatred, anger, and violent behavior. Sexual harassment, child abuse, incest, rape, murder, war--it's impossible today to hear a news report and not be informed of violent acts perpetrated by men. Acknowledging that there are no easy answers to the problem of male violence--particularly in a world that seems to thrive on aggression and physical force--Men's Work reaches straight to its root causes. In his ground-breaking work, author Paul Kivel helps men confront the political, social, and personal forces that generate and reward misogyny, hatred, anger, and violent behavior. Combining years of personal study and reflection with his work with men in the Oakland Men's Project, Men's Work presents an innovative and workable approach to stopping male violence. Kivel shows men how to reclaim the power and responsibility needed to unlearn the lessons of control and aggression.Paul Kivel is a nationally known expert on men's issues. Through his work at the Oakland Men's Project, he helps men confront and change violent behaviors and teaches alternatives to violence in their relationships. He also trains teachers, therapists, probation officers, and agency staff who work with men, exploring such topics as male/female relationships, alternatives to violence, family violence, and sexual assault. Kivel resides in Oakland, California.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1568382332
• ISBN13: 9781568382333
• Release Date: October 1998
• Publisher: Hazelden Publishing & Educational Services
• Length: 328 Pages
• Weight: 0.99 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.8" x 5.4" x 8.5"

Customer Reviews

Men's Work

I bought this book for my husband who read it before but lost the book. He is reminded how to use the skills taught in this book by picking it up often. He is a brainiac so if he brags about this book, it really must be a good one. Oh, and the proof is in the pudding; he's a pretty happy guy :)

good seller

I received the book quickly and it was in the condition the seller described it as. Thank you.

GR8 Book

This is a great bookto understand men and where ethey come from but not to excuse their behavior.

Insightful

Any man willing to take a true inward look will benefit from reading this book. As Kivel points out, this is really our work to do as men - to take a look at what makes us prove our worth by posturing ourselves and emphasizing our power over others. This isn't easy because the priveledge that comes with power is so latent in what we do, we have to really listen to ourselves as well as the women in our lives and these simply aren't things that men are typically socialized to do. If more men would stop being defensive when women or allies of women call men on their sexism or appeal to their humanity and would begin to address how we perpetuate male dominance, we would not only live in a much less violent and tolerant society, but I think we would find that men would be much happier as a result of having better relationships in their lives.

Men's Work - a worthwhile read

This book is well worth reading, especially for men who want to understand and do something about gender based violence. It is accessible and addresses the issues in a down to earth way providing insights significant for both men and women. Suitable for high school age through adult.