Love Addicted: One Woman's Spiritual Journey Through Emotional Dependency

By DeBora M. Ricks and Robin Quinn

Book Overview

The love addicted woman falls in love easily with men she barely knows. She is needy, controlling and insecure. She confuses sex with love and wants with needs. She engages in high risk behaviors and has a high tolerance for suffering. She believes she needs a man-not to enhance a fulfilling, purposeful life-but as an asylum from life. Fear, which is rooted in a deep sense of inadequacy, dupes her into believing she is nothing without a relationship. And so she desperately searches for love and acceptance everywhere but where it can be found, within. Until she heals. Love Addicted is the story of a self-confessed love junkie whose search for love--in the eyes and arms of men--ultimately leads to the healing of her mind and spirit.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0976403102
• ISBN13: 9780976403104
• Release Date: March 2009
• Publisher: Sunny House Press
• Length: 196 Pages
• Weight: 0.55 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.4" x 5.5" x 8.5"

Customer Reviews

In the name of Love

'This book is about the messy, protracted journey through love and relationship addictions, toward self-love, wholeness and power.' -- Deborah Ricks After surviving yet another doomed-from-the-start love affair, Deborah Ricks took her daily journal, sat in front of her PC and preceded to share her story. She gives readers a glimpse into the mind of an addict, albeit a relationship addiction. Deborah also shares insight into what she believes is the genesis of her addiction to men and relationships; a troubled relationship with her father. Years of hurt, disappointment, betrayal, abuse, misuse and resentment calcified into a seething contempt and extreme bitterness for an entire segment of the population. Men, especially Black men, became her enemy. Finally, Deborah realized her noxious attitude about men, coupled with her self-esteem issues, were the impetus behind her failed relationships. Deborah even considered an alternative, but her mental foray into that lifestyle did not satisfy her desire for testosterone; she missed the seductive dance between the yin and the yang. After Deborah slipped into what she calls 'her darkness', she made a powerful choice, one that gave her more freedom, more flexibility, and more time to write. Deborah realized she had the power to direct her life and that joy was her birthright. Love addiction was her reality; it fueled her misguided pursuit of a father's love, in the arms of the wrong men. LOVE ADDICTED led to the healing of her mind and spirit and is the culmination of a spiritual ritual that still channels her life. Reviewed by aNN of The RAWSISTAZ Reviewers

Putting emotional dependency and man addiction on blast

I stumbled on this book at a poetry reading and had the pleasure of meeting Ms. Ricks there. Her book spoke to me so personally (even down to the 6 year relationship that went no where)and helped me to walk away from my addiction to men and focus on ME! The book also names other important reads, quotes, and people to get additional assistance from.

A must read for all women who are searching for love in all the wrong places

I have read this book "Love Addicted" and being a long term friend of the author's Debora Ricks, it was truly an eye opener! Reading my sister-friends journey through her love addiction. The book was written with such eloquence and revelation that the reader would be given answers on why they search and love men that are abusive, controlling, and powerful. Debora takes you back to her relationship with her father, which was an abusive one or she shares her intimate secret of being raped as a child by a stranger. These two men had an impact on how she perceives and accepts men that were not loving - her father and a stranger who raped her. Debora, an intelligent sister. An attorney by trade, a mother by choice lets you into her secret world to help others who have travelled this same path of abuse, heartbreak, struggle and then triumph. A spiritually written book with quotes that will move you through each chapter from Zora Neal Hurston to Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching. I recommend this journalistic reflection of a sister-friend whose eloquence in her writing and her evolving into her own, makes it a must read for those who are searching for love or need help in breaking their addiction - "Love Addiction"