It's Not Me, It's You: Break the Blame Cycle. Relationship Better.
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Book Overview
Two therapists analyze their own relationship to help untangle the common and frustrating barriers many individuals face on the road to a happy, loving, rewarding partnership.
Many of the clients who end up in our respective therapist offices thought they were doing relationships right--avoiding the white picket fence, focusing on careers and experiences over babies and legally-binding documents, choosing someone after they "found themselves" first. However, like clockwork, around their early to mid-thirties, these clients show up at our door. Why? For the first time, they realize that they dislike their relationship and are frustrated by their partner but know that another break-up won't fix things. They recognize a pattern of relationship misery that has them finally looking in the mirror asking, how do you make a relationship last?
It took us many relationships, our own inner self journey (which we're still on), therapy, therapy school, and helping thousands of people with their relationships, to learn to have better ones ourselves. Vanessa woke up at 31, after ending an engagement and moving to Los Angeles. John thought he woke up at 35 after his divorce. But he didn't truly wake up until he was pushing 40.
In It's Not Me, It's You, John and Vanessa dissect their own relationship to help readers figure out theirs: what their relationships were like in the past, what traumas they carried into the new relationship, and how they work on growing together to foster a healthy and long-term bond.
The surprising truth is falling in love is more about you than your partner. It's more about challenge and growth than comfort and ease, and roots don't grow from wishful thinking--they grow in the soil of communication, curiosity, patience, and understanding.
It's Not Me, It's You is for anyone looking for real advice on relationships that takes both sides into account and discusses relationships with the honesty and clarity we all need.
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Rated 5 starsBoth survival account and work of history, shedding light on settlement of Virginia and Bermuda
_Sea Venture_ by Kieran Doherty is a book that sheds some interesting light on the establishment of not only the first lasting English colony in the New World (Jamestown), but also on the founding of the first colony in Bermuda. I had no idea that the two were connected nor the interesting if sometimes subtle role played by the titular ship or its crew in early American history. The _Sea Venture_ was the flagship of a fleet...
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Rated 5 starsCan't Knock It
Kieran Doherty writes the most detailed history of Virginia from 1609 to 1622 that I have ever read. I also own "American Slavery, American Freedom" and "Love and Hate in Jamestown," but this one contains all the crucial facts found in those two books and more for its selected time frame. For example, I had never read before that Pocahontas was married before John Rolfe (it appears the marriage failed or her first husband,...
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Rated 5 starsColorful Look at the Trials and Tribulations of Founding Jamestown and Bermuda
When Jamestown was established 400 years ago, the original English colonists made several mistakes: locating in a swampy area that bred more disease than crops, bringing people who were unsuited for farming, planning to live off the land without farming or hunting or fishing, and expecting that they would soon find fortunes in gold. Those mistakes were compounded when the false assumptions behind them continued to be believed...
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Rated 5 starsAmazing Book
AWESOME BOOK!!!! Sorry for the short review. One of the top 3 books I have ever read.
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Rated 5 starsa great read
one of the best histories I've read. Fast paced. Dramatic. Full of fascinating details. If you like adventures of any sort, read this book. If you like sea adventures, run to buy it.
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