Growing Up with Divorce: Helping Your Child Avoid Immediate and Later Emotional Problems

By Neil Kalter

Book Overview

A comprehensive guide helping families overcome the trauma of divorce.

For many years, Growing Up With Divorce has offered divorced parents transformative insight, solace, and practical guidance on how to help their children cope with the stresses caused by marital separation. Every child is unique, yet there are certain common reactions to the stresses of divorce--anger, a sense of divided loyalties, lasting intimacy issues. Dr. Neil Kalter explains that, for children, divorce is not a single event but is comprised of "a series of events that occur over many years." Identifying three stages of divorce, Dr. Kalter cites the particular struggles associated with each stage and explains how gender as well as cognitive, emotional, and social development also affect how children react.

Dispensing sage advice on everything from understanding and minimizing the anxieties that underlie various troublesome behaviors to smoothing out your child's transitions between her two households to incorporating a new spouse into your family, Dr. Kalter gives parents and the professionals who treat divorced families an indispensable guide to navigating the difficulties of divorce.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0743280857
• ISBN13: 9780743280853
• Release Date: January 2006
• Publisher: Free Press
• Length: 432 Pages
• Weight: 1.09 lbs.
• Dimensions: 1.1" x 5.5" x 8.5"

Customer Reviews

Great book for helping children through divorce and its aftermath

Excellent book. A well written looks at children at a variety of ages to explain their reaction to divorce. The people who love the child involved need to know how to help and this book is a big help.

Book on Emotional Effects of Divorce on children and adults

This book looks at the emotions and stages that families go through with "good, bad, and ugly divorces". The book includes rarely discussed syndromes that may occur when one or more parents engage in emotional warfare and the resulting trauma for the children. For example, I have never read such a good description of parent alienation. This is an excellent book to give to people while they are considering divorce so they know what they have to face or how to proceed so that the children are spared great pain and fear. It is an excellent guide for mental health professionals for assessment of children and couples. (I am in social work.)

Helpfull

I particularly like the fact that Neil Kalter describes the emotions that children have. As they often hide them in a different way than I would expect as a parent. Now I can see much more clear what my children reveal to protect me. Kalter offers good to the point advice on how to help children. Which is exactly what you need as a parent. I greatly recommend this book. Margo, Amsterdam, The Netherlands

Imminently helpful to separating families

As a divorce mediator, I've loaned several copies of this book to separating couples, never to have them returned. Now that the book has been reprinted, I'm ordering a dozen copies for my program, and will give it to separating parents because of its powerful message: "remove your kids from the middle of your marital conflict!"

Excellent refrence to assist children thru divorce troubles

Growing Up With Divorce by Dr. Neil Kalter has proven to be an excellent tool for helping the children through the emotional pitfalls of divorce. It is divided by age catagory, tells of the signs of emotional distress then gives practical solutions to help the children through their issues. Good tool to use again and again.