Better Single Than Sorry: A No-Regrets Guide to Loving Yourself and Never Settling

By Jen Schefft

Book Overview

Let's be honest. No woman really wants to be alone for the rest of her life. But does being alone mean you're doomed to be miserable forever? Definitely not And does being single have to equal lonely? No way You can have the best time of your life when you're single, but you wouldn't know that from our relationship obsessed society, where celebrity magazines devote the majority of their content to who's dating whom and the wedding industry is a $100-billion business. Yet more than a third of marriages end in divorce, and countless other couples languish in unions that shouldn't have happened in the first place.

Don't become a statistic--love yourself and never settle

Jen Schefft knows that better than almost anyone. In 2003, she got engaged in front of millions of people on television's The Bachelor, only to see it end nine months later when the relationship just wasn't right anymore. A year later, she turned down an engagement on The Bachelorette, and the backlash was relentless. She was labeled a "spinster" by a celebrity magazine, and a noted national talk-show host remarked that she would be "a bachelorette for the rest of her life."

This is a terrible message to send to the millions of sensational single women out there, and in Better Single Than Sorry Schefft makes it her mission to let women know that it's better to be single than to be in a relationship that doesn't make you happy. With testimonials from women of all ages--single, married, in committed relationships, with children (even single moms) and without--this book tells you how to let go of your fear of being alone and how to love yourself and never settle for a relationship that is anything less than you deserve.

Written in a conversational style, as if talking with your best friend, Schefft helps you navigate the pressures of a culture that places an unhealthy importance on being in a relationship and shows you how to find happiness in work, home, and the simple pleasures of everyday life. Above all, she shows you how it's far, far better to be single than sorry. Being single is a time to have fun, learn new things, grow, and blossom--not a time to feel desperate or depressed, so cherish it

• Format: Hardcover
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0061228079
• ISBN13: 9780061228070
• Release Date: January 2007
• Publisher: William Morrow & Company
• Length: 288 Pages
• Weight: 0.90 lbs.
• Dimensions: 1.0" x 5.5" x 8.3"

Customer Reviews

Great book for the single woman in her twenties

It seems like all the books I read about being single, are for middle age women or for single moms. It was nice to finaloly read a book that I could relate to, being in my twenties. Very cute and funny.

REFRESHING!!!!

I read this book at Barnes and Noble on a study break and I will admit that I found it very refreshing!! Why? too many books about being single seem to focus on some aspect of trying to fetch a guy by improving your looks, by flirting better, by having fewer standards, by networking more, etc. While some of those principles are not always completely bad, they focus on life being better with having the ideal mate in your life (instead of learning how to manage or enjoy life). And then other times, they are outright anti-feminist with principles of encouraging submissiveness, a lack of communication and pretending to be something that you are not which is damaging to BOTH sexes, not just women. This book I think gets it RIGHT. Jen Schefft talks about ENJOYING the single life, about NOT SETTLING, about not falling into the peer pressure when friends or parents want you to be with someone. I think that this is downright refreshing in contrast to other books on single life. More books should be like this! They should not encourage women to be any less than who they truly are, and changing something about yourself should be because YOU want to do it, not because you want to get someone's attention. This seems to have a slef help twist on a feminist perspective. Other books that I think that people who might be interested in this book might benefit from are: The Meaning of Wife, Bachelor Girl, Feminine Mystique, A Room of Ones Own.

Wonderful Book

I think that every woman should read this book. I am in a relationship, but still found this book compelling. Her thoughts on how you should be treated and loving yourself are absolutely right!

Good advice from a sharp lady

This woman has been there and seems to have her head on straight. She has decided what is right for her and does not yield to pressure from any quarter. She appears to be a mature, self-confident, uncompromising woman with a good attitude that all of us should emulate.

LOVED IT

I bought this book after being invited to Jen's book launch in NYC through a contact of mine. (Met her too...sweet girl!) Anyhow, this really is a must-read for any 30-something single female. As Jen says, we really do live in a relationship obsessed society and it is important to be happy with yourself rather than be with the wrong person so that you are not alone and accepted into society. I found this book to be really inspiring and empowering.