Avoiding Wedding Aftershock or I Like You Even Better Now That I Know You

By Mike Brown and Charlie Michaels

Book by Charlie Michaels, Mike Brown This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0962652504
• ISBN13: 9780962652509
• Release Date: May 1990
• Publisher: Carmichael Ventures
• Length: 160 Pages
• Weight: 0.45 lbs.
• Dimensions: 8.5" x 0.5" x 5.3"

Customer Reviews

Start off on the right foot.

It's incredible how great an influence this little, unassuming book has had on my life. I do not know what my life together with my wife would be like had we not read this book. Although I am sure we would still be happy, this book definitely got us started off on the right foot. Basically this book asks you and your potential spouse to write down all your thoughts on basically every subject which may come up over the course of your life together. Each individual does this separately and then you get together to discuss your opinions on the long list of subjects. It may sound ridiculous, but it is incredibly worthwhile. It is essentially your chance to talk about the many facets of life which will come up over time, but instead of coming up over the course of many years, often at inopportune times (which could easily lead to misunderstanding, disappointment, frustration, anger, etc.), you talk about it in a controlled environment where you EXPECT to have disagreements, arguments, and negotiations. In some cases you will not come to an agreement, but at least you know where each other stands. Not that all of the conversations are confrontational, most are not, they are just some of the more difficult times. There are also plenty of times of joy, sadness, and great satisfaction. In the course of this whole activity, you are encouraged to write down what you decide. This becomes your "marriage pact". Again, this may sound crazy, and some will argue that it is too formal for them, but we found it to be very useful. It took my wife and I about seven full days in total, three full days each to prepare for our discussion and then four days to complete the discussion and drafting of our marriage pact. We had the luxury of time, but I believe it could be done in about a four to five day duration (about eight hours each day, with plenty of time for breaks during that time - you'll need them!) We have been married about a year now and I believe the time we invested has already been paid back many fold. We are about to go over our wedding pact again this weekend, and I am a bit nervous, but I know our marriage will be even better as a result. This book is not for everyone, but I would encourage anyone considering marriage to check it out, especially since it is so cheap. Also, remember that if two people are preparing for their "marriage pact" at the same time, then there should be two copies of the book available (we made this mistake and I had to carry around the big stack of photocopies, which was not pleasant.) This book also makes a great engagement gift. Finally, let me encourage everyone who is considering marriage or is already married to read this book. As I see it, if done with an open mind, it can only help the two people in a marriage to understand each other and live happy lives together.